I came to this big city of
When I came, I was sure that for the entire four weeks duration of my holidays I was going to be more than far away from my normal
We walked to this little space and entered the room. It was filled with some friendly looking Africans, about eight of them. They were busy drinking, smoking and talking away the young evening. The kind of reports one got at home back in
The waiter came to ask us what we would want to eat; there was egusi soup, bitter leaf, and one other soup i could not remember. I ordered for bitter leaf and silently wandered if i would get that or get some lettuce used as bitter leaf. Minutes later, my food came; it was white and fluffy pounded yam with bitter leaf and egusi for my other friends. There was water to wash the hands (as though they were never expecting any of us to use forks and knives to cut through pounded yam and egusi soup) complementing the usual friendly face of the waiter who served the meal. She was not wearing some idiotic service dress that would take her African looks away; she looked exactly like one of those ladies one would see at “mama Chinedu” or “Mama Oluchi’s restaurant with gratitude on her face because the customer accepted her food to eat.
My curiosity knew no bounds. I descended on the meal as though i had never ever eaten pounded yam before. I pounded the yam in my mouth with the ease of one who had been starved of such delicacies since weeks. Suddenly i was unable to follow or lead any coherent conversation, my concentration and attention were focused on the collapsing structure of the mountainous pounded yam in front of me. Meanwhile, i was having problems touching the soup with each morsel of the pounded yam I took; the various “orisirisi” meat that characterised the soup disturbed me fairly well and i had to start eating them one by one before i could make head-way with the soup. I nodded as conversations were going on to indicate that i heard, but my mind was on the beauty of the food i was demolishing.
In no time at all, my own ration was finished. I looked up and began to clean my nose which was already leaking liquid from the much I suffered as consequence of the chilly pepper inside the bitter leaf soup. I shook my head in appreciation of an excellent meal and thanked God that nothing could ever take my “Nigerian-ness” away from me. In far away
Second Visit
Matters would have happily end up very well here. I would have mailed this article online and ended my free advertisements for this food joint except few days later, I took my wife, her friends and five other European friends to come and have a taste of our home. We went there, aside from everyone staring at us like we were in zoo, Nigerians came up with their usual pride; they started to sing out loud, they started to shout at one another, they were fighting and throwing utensils at one another. We quietly eased ourselves out and none of us ever went to that shop again nor did we speak about the shameful behavior.
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Dear Mamman Sanusi, I am glad that you like this piece. I actually never knew that it would attract so much attention. It has been the most read and the responded piece i ever did. Let us keep the dialogue on. Thanks
Dele
i so much like this article tha’s why iseect rating as excelent
Dear Chi
I try to capture some expressions in countries I visit where english is not a main language. However I speak fairly good German, I am competent in salutations with Spanish and I speak excellent and near perfect Yoruba.
Dele,
I enjoyed your story. From the construction of your language, I notice several European influences beyond English. You seem well traveled. – Spain, Denmark, Austria… How many languages do you speak and which are they? Just curious…
Chi
Dear Mrs Daboh,
Thanks for your comments and congrats on your marriage to a Nigerian. You know sometimes when you really sit back to review things you will find out that something you are used to are strange. For instance, it hardly matter to me how naturally violent it is for others to see you screaming and shouting on top of your voice. Now that you speak of fights at gas stations and cyber cafés… it shows that indeed we often quarrel and fight. These are influenced by too many pressures within our country Nigeria. Example:
1. There are grave economic pressure (where a man hardly knows where the other meals will come from);
2. social pressure (there are no electricity; everywhere you hear the noises of generators and broken down vehicles… you live with this noise at home, you get to work it is the same, you go to relax in the hotel and the noise follows you….gradually one begins to pile up the moments of insanity until one day when one would explode!); and
3. pressure from political system-Structural violence (where you see your elected officers ridding the bests of cars while public transport systems have broken down and working class people cannot afford a new car; politicians stealing millions of USD even though basic salary is less than 5USD… you watch news and you see legislators (“legislooters”) fighting combats in the halls of the national assemblies… noises of sirens- of government officials fill the entire place pushing commuters away from the streets).
These are amongst many other reasons
My dear Mrs Daboh, there are so very many things that push the aggressions in us. It is a pity but often times these things are not realized or accounted for but they are good reasons why we often fight and easily quarrel
Dele Sonubi
I really enjoyed your article. My husband is Nigerian, and when I went to Lagos to get married, I longed for my American food so very much. So I know what it is like to be away from home and not have the types of food that you are use to and love to eat.
I loved reading about how much you enjoyed your first visit, but do not understand what the fighting was all about. I witnessed a few fights at the gas station when I was in Lagos, and when my husand use to IM me from the cafe, some fights broke out there as well. It seems as though Nigerians fight easily . . . .like Americans I am afraid at times.
Dear Sir,
You are right, I will the second visit had not been necessary otherwise I will always have a romantic and fantastic imagination of the place. Yet, if an orange is sweet one will suck hundreds of it at one time. We had to go there again but ideed it was a pity what we experienced.
Dele
Dear Rosie,
We were there to eat and enjoy the pounded yam. Aside from the stare from everyone as though we were strange coming there, they started to play loud music and the volume was indeed excessively loud. The Nigerian boys were busy screaming on top of thier voices and then the noise from the music rendered the place uncomfortable for solemn conversation. We approached the barman and asked him to kindly turn down the volume of the stereo. He obliged and our Igbo friends screamed at him for doing that. He was explaining to them when they picked up the fight and we eased ourselves out.
Interesting experience. What started the fight?
nice story.
Quite enjoyed it up until the second visit.