Our black sisters in the UK must still be fuming right now, particularly those from the Caribbean islands over this latest ‘affront’, which is like a slap in their faces and a vote of no confidence on their beauty, womanly virtues, and on the other characteristics that brothers look for in women these days.
Ashley Cole’s marriage to Girls Aloud Singer (Cheryl Tweedy) is not surprising, it is consistent with the age old habit of successful black men in the UK, (and in America too I guess) abandoning sisters from their ‘hood, choosing instead to cross over the street and find their love matches amongst white chics. I’m sure some of these sisters, with their hairs tucked nicely under hair driers in Peckham’s many beauty shops, the many others putting finishing touches to their nails, and the ones waxing their faces in the quest to enhance their appeal would be cursing and swearing at the same time, out of disgust and disappointment and thinking out aloud ‘damn, another one taken, what’s with these brothers?’.
Such outbursts may not be surprising as black sisters would normally regard brothers like Ashley and his likes that prefer white chics to their black sisters as lost causes and tormented souls. This habit usually surfaces whenever the going gets good for the brothers, that is when they suddenly realise that their black sisters ‘goods’ aren’t good enough anymore.
But do you really blame brothers like Ashley, and Sol Campbell, his friend and former Arsenal team mate who also had his current white girlfriend (interior designer Fiona Barratt) in tow at the Ashley Cole wedding. This despite his previous weird experiences from his off-and-on liaisons with 44 year-old celebrity interior designer (Kelly Hoppen)which ruined his 2005/2006 football season and almost cost him his football career. And speaking about Sol Campbell, what is it about him and interior decorators? Oh! Plus older women. Weird isn’t it?
And what is it about white chics that lure successful brothers like them away, so much so as to make them forget about all the bootylicious endowments and soul food skills of our black sisters?
Could this be as a result of low self-esteem or inferiority complex on the part of these brothers, a situation where they begin to see the white chics as their passports and tickets to breaking into the traditional and ultra conservative English society, and party circuits, or is it just that the white girls ‘do it’ better than our black sisters?
This is really worrying because it is our black sisters that should be crawling those Soho night clubs and raiding those West end boutiques as footballers’ wives (WAGs), and deservedly too, not these white chics that would use our brothers and eventually dump them when the going gets tough.
Maybe these brothers should speak to Frank Bruno first before getting in on the act of crossing over. The former heavyweight champion probably is still suffering from the stress of separating from his ex-wife who seemed to have jumped ship when Frank’s chips were down. And to think that it is us, the brothers and our black sisters that rallied round him when he was going through his rough patch in 2003.
If you ask me, I think that our black sisters should stage a walkout and protest match at the Soho headquarters of the Football Association (FA), they should also put in their complaints in writing and demand the FA to launch an inquiry immediately into this growing trend of brothers abandoning their roots. If not checked, our sisters would loose all the few good (and rich) men (footballers) still around.
Thierry Henry is already taken, and by whom? Sure you guessed right, by a white chic. Christian Kerembeau, remember him? He was in the French world cup winning squad of 1998; and has been long taken by the supermodel Adriana who now also doubles as his wife. Even young Theo Walcott, the great black hope, didn’t you see his white WAG (acronym for footballers wife and girlfriend invented by the British press, apparently the reasons for England’s poor fortune at the World Cup) hanging out with other WAGS during the World Cup in Germany? Even Jermain Defoe, the petit sized Totenham Hotspurs misfit also always has a white chic in tow.
Infact all the available black footballers are heavily into white chics, now you see where I’m coming from? This surely is worrying. It is only our black footballers from Africa who still manage to patronize the ethnic community as regards their choice of girlfriends or wives, see how Kalu Nwankwo cleverly went back to his village to capture Amarachi, even Jay-Jay Okocha too; he imported his from back home. I don’t know about Celestine Babayaro, but I sure don’t trust that brother, every time you run into him in a bar or club in London, you will find him in the company of white chics. Sisters, please do us and yourselves a big favour, go grab him now, don’t let him go the way of the others. It’s your money after all; help keep it in the black community. And while you are at it, do a stakeout at Stamford Bridge for John Obi Mikel, it’s always better to catch them young before these white chics capture him too, Afterall he is now a Chelsea FC football millionaire.
Look at O.J Simpson’s experience in America; surely he didn’t think that Nicole Brown-Simpson was going to be there with him forever, did he? Who wants to hang around an out-of-pocket, has-been football player? When O.J lost his star power and wasn’t attracting much society gossips and column inches anymore, Nicole walked. Which white chic will endure that kind of humiliation? But our black sisters would, they would always be there, come rain or shine or am I fantasizing here?
This is not to say that black men are not capable of loving white women and vice versa, and don’t you go thinking that I’m racially biased, no I am not. I have been with white chics in the past but surely like attracts like. I’m down with our black sisters any day, for reasons that wifey won’t like to see me mention here. Again, don’t call me a racist, we sure do have lots of unmarried sisters in our communities, and it would help our cause if the likes of Ashley Cole do also look their way, as role models to young black men, they should set the pace.
Who says black sisters can not generate enough column inches and media profile, capable of attracting sponsorships and increased earnings for black brothers? The person should check out Naomi Campbell, a sister like that is capable of reviving dead careers with her on your side. That’s what I’m talking about.
Our Nigerian sisters though may not care a hoot about this because they got it all going and wrapped up for them by our Nigerian brothers, but the challenge also goes to them. Despite all their sme sme and garagara, we are yet to hear of any of them that have landed a big fish since Regina Askia’s misadventure when she married the African-American Rudolph Williams, the marriage has since broken down because of Regina’s continued extra-marital relationship with Charles Orie, a close friend of late Obidiozor Otokoto of the 1996 Otokoto ritual fame.
Our Nigerian sisters should at least show some sisterly love; by showing some concerns and worry on behalf of our Caribbean sisters over the way white chics now grab the few eligible and rich brothers still available. It could be them next.
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I cannot believe that you this (interracial marriages) as a bad thing! Beauty goes beyond skin colour. Can you not see this? If black man chooses to marry a white woman why do you see this as a turn on his black ‘sisters’? IT’S CALLED INTEGRATION!!!!! Stop making it all about colour. You make me sick!
Women may come in different shades, but they essentially have the same equipment. Its about time we stop this craziness about interracial couples and got more ‘reproductive’ hehe I mean productive.
HILARIOUS. I’m with brown sugar here ( I love Oha Soup!!!)
This is thought provocking ,a mere philosophy of life . there is no hard / fast rule in the choice of a life partner ( wife) . Marriage knows no bounds . What i hate is same sex marriage , He that made them from the beginning made them male and female , so tribe / race is inconsequential . Marriage break down is now a global issue
my advice is youngmen and ladies should in love and honourto God without considering poverty or riches , and race . I am a Nigerian .
come to think of it i did not see where it is written in the holy bible,holy koran and any other religious book that it is a crime to date or possibly marry out of your own race and even at such it is not written in any constitution of any country in the world even the so called racist country of germany they still did not put it in their constitution that they should never elope out of their own race or country or whatever.those against intermarriage are bunch of losers.DID GOD OR JESUS OR EVEN DEVIL CONDEMN IT…i ask those self absorbed,self preserved hypocrite.just so you people know my uncle is married to an american celibrity woman ok he is now 75yrs old and they live in makurdi nigeria with 5 beautiful kids 3girls and 2boys.they are still happily married.are they not people or human.just because am black means i will marry black or just because i am white i ought to stick to white.WHAT A REPULSIVE,REPELLING AND APPALING/PRIMITIVE MENTALITY.no wonder africa find it difficult to change or develop.we are too conscious of everything and always sense and perceive negativism whenever anything about the white race is been brought up.we should grow up.lets think again
Your comment was extremely racist on behalf on any white human beings and for that matter any black human beings. Each race and religion has the right and freedom to marry and see who ever that may be. Calling white women ugly? that is very narrowed minded and you must live a very sheltered life not to see stunning white women or stunning black women. Did you ever think of personalities before looks? maybe Cheryl had more charisma and charm about here than one of his ‘sisters’. You live a very foul opinionated life and clearly believe strongly on prejudice on people who are not the same colour as you. Calling white women monsters and ugly!. Nobody is brainwashed into loving anybody its natural. You shouldn’t have to have a loyalty to your ‘race’ you are allowed to mix its not a crime!. Maybe you need to take a hard look at yourself and think about what your saying in future without being severely racist and rude. White is a dominate colour in England mainly because we have a very good understanding of all different ethnics and races we all mix together as it should be without people being such a bigamist.
Just look at the monster that is standing to the left of Cole in the picture with his arm around her. Is that one of the wags? As if there are no beautiful black women around. This is one of the things that really disgusts me about the behaviour of many black guys (and, conversely, black chics who whore themselves to non-black guys) and makes me feel so ashamed of my race. Time and time again I see black guys with incredibly ugly white females and I wonder what sort of psychologically crippling mental disease these guys are suffering from that has made them devoid of dignity, racial pride, self-esteem and good taste in women. I know that most human beings are easily susceptible to the charm of power and social status (which the white race is lucky enough to have -and I emphasize that it is merely the result of pure luck and not because they are really better than anyone else). What many people don’t realize is that social status is very much an attractive quality of females just as it is of males and that the american hype and propaganda of so-called white beauty is really based on the power-status that the skin happens to represent and not actual beauty of it which, by the way, is rather pathetic compared to brown skin which, according to psychological tests of newborn babies who have not yet been brainwashed by the white media, is actually most attractive.
Coming back to the article, one could say in defense of these footballers that since they live in a country that is mostly white, it is of course natural that the women that they are most likely to come across and date will be white. That is true. But, at the same time, that doesn’t excuse their apparent lack of racial loyalty and insensitivity especially when, as I said, there are a lot of great looking black women who, unlike these bimbos, are also great people. Like I mentioned earlier, this problem of betraying their own race by throwing themselves exclusively at other races (especially the dominant one) is a problem exhibited by both black males and females. Some other races do this too (especially east asian females) but I don’t want to talk about that now. This is just one example of the big problem with the black race that is holding us down: the weakness of human nature.
Interacial marriage isn’t a crime, the problem is the continued trend where black men leave the race and scurry for white women once they become successful whereas when they still were nothing they always looked for black women. Most times when these men haven’t made it yet, they stick with black women and once they become big shots, they move over to white women. In my opinion I think these men try to join a new breed/group of brothers who have made it. White women are sort of tags that show that a brother is successful and has made it to the bigger side. Once the white women are answering the names and making babies with preferred genes for the black men, they can still get black booty elsewhere, afterall once a brother is taken, especially by a white woman, black women fuss and will do anything in their power to wreck the relationship and this often constitutes giving up the booty.
Who is obsessed with race? Brothers who are averse to marrying and dating Black women or the Brother who notices it? If we are all human then isn’t it a problem when male humans of a darker shade avoid females of a darker shade?
Do you think that white women arent materialistics? Go ask paul mccartney or lionel richie about that! The basic fact is that black men have deep inferiority complexes! Why mixed-race people like ashley cole, rio ferdinand, etc….dont even go for mixed-race girls? If mixed-race girls arent good enough for them, who will marry their daughters one day? I respect the asian man coz he is a real man who doesnt bow down to whites. We are the ones who marry the most to white women yet we are the least respected of all non-white people.quite strange!
My fellow African Americans echo the same feelings around these issues. I guess I didn’t realize the dynamics are extremely similar here in the states. This is powerful.
i support leye's view that majority of black women look for material things in a relationship.however,this is not to say that most black male immigrants to the West often get entangled with white women just for obtaining citizenship status .moreover, some white ladies get entangled with black men only for the reason of begeting mulattos and dumping them thereafter. Conclusively, i think everyone has his likes and dislikes but ONLY FEW BLACK WOMEN LOVE GENUINELY WITHOUT MATERIAL CONSIDERATIONS.
Man is the guy who wrote this American? koz he thinks he is goin on about ‘sistas’ and ‘brothers’….
When will you people GET A LIFE – we’re all HUMAN, who cares if someones skin is shaded a different colour? are we not all HUMAN?????!!
The world will never get better because of people like you who are OBSSESSED with ‘race’. Why should people not be able to have a relationship together because their skin is slightly shaded in a different colour??? – it makes no sense. At the end of the day we’re all human, get over it and let people get on with their lives
And what exactly do Black women who sleep around with White men based on the size of their pockets suffer from?
all the comments i read so far made sense to me but still we all have to face the fact.most of the new generation black women want to be with a man for something.they allowed their physical environment to dictate their chioce of men.its real life experience i was not told i was born in it and i lived in it.white women love you for nothing even if you are the worst illitrate from any part of africa or any part of the word you can still get along with them.let our black women check themselves and stop loving for educational,economic,financial,materialistic or what ever reasons that doesnt make unconditional love come true.i have seen so many black and white relationships that the guys started with nothing with the ladies and the love was present and its working out.let our black ladies love us and show it and am sure black guys are going to stay and make the black ladies their first choice of life partner.am writing this comment based on my own opinion not to confuse or convince anybody.thanks.
i think jermain defoe’s case is different.he is totally sex maniac.i mean who dont want to date n having sex with those busty white women.defoe is sux big time man.
How you skillfully ignore the trend of Africans marrying white girls just to use then gain citizenship in X western country is stunning. shows how balanced and racially unbiased u are
Interracial marriages / relationships are a waste of time for African men and women. We should stick to our own.
I was wondering if your attack on onyibo also applies to asians or a brown honey indian like mua. I concede there are underlying issues that need addressing. But to generalize and dictate that black must marry black especially if the latter black is super rich is too intellectually degrading. And to say that your black brothers aka jocks dont appreciate bootylicious endowments of black sisters is doubly degrading to the intellectual and educated sisters. Then again…who am i to put my 2 cents in….just the brown honey indian wife of a nigerian igbo businessman ( …..and i cook the best insala and oha soup this side of the globe)
Okay,lets take it to another realm….An Irish friend invited me to his fellowship in Dublin and it shocked me that 99% of the church was black folk and…yes you guessed right, the priest was white.
When i spoke to some of the darkies in the church,they said,they dont trust black preachers.Many of them are adulterers and frauds,they claimed.In fact more than half of them joined the whaite priest church because the darkie priest "carpetted" a suzie in the choir.Hmmm.
Recently though,the white priest "was outed" as gay!
What was that thing Ganjaman said again jo?EMANCIPATE YOURSELF FROM MENTAL SLAVERY.
Good article but yet nothing has been done on a larger global scale to address the issue.
It's not about gold digging black women vs. caring and supporting white women. It's not about love and being "color blind" but its about the lack of respect that black men and black women have for one another.
Many dont know their history on a global scale, some have a deep level of self hatred and others have been brainwashed to beileve that white is right and black get back is true.
Until the black diaspora can better educate themselves about their history and what it truly means to be a black person (regardless of where you are) there will always be this issue of abandonment amongst the community.
you need to go out more bro
Everybody has his and her dislikes. I myself am from the white race and have been married to my husband who is infact a Nigerian for five years now and have two beautiful kids. I did not plan to marry from a different race but love does strike in a funny way. I am just sooo happy that it was him that I married for he is a truly blessing and I could not be more happier that I am now.
My brother, you hit the nail on the head! Just call it a simple case of colonial mentality….we think the whiter the better"! Why do you think so many Nigerian women bleach? And who says Nigerian superstar footballers are exempt? Check out Daniel Amokachi…his wife is Moroccan(African yeah but still white skinned with long hair! Sunday Oliseh…you guessed it! Tunisian …with fair skin and long wavy hair..its only Kanu,Okocha that I know of that have black NIGERIAN wives and thats because as typical Ibo men certain things can not be compromised!! such as Akpu,Oha soup, Ofe Owerri and the like! Kanu dated white girls when he was in Holland but it was reported that his mother BEGGED him not to get married to any Oyinbo and be lost forever cos lets face it when you get married to them they dont want you to come home (why should they? Would you want to leave the comfort of the western world and settle in the Thirld world with its attendant problems and no friends and family close by?) so my brother your observation was spot on….as for America would you believe that the incredibly talented Cuba Gooding Jr. has a white wife? As well as Taye Diggs?! Taye Diggs!!! Tiger Woods…same thing! He married a Swedish baby sitter! Would he have been so willing to marry a black babysister? Thank goodness for Denzel Washington whose been married for years to his black wife for several years and is a poster person for a solid, black, successful family man.Im not a rascist. Normally I wouldnt notice such things but now you mention it , one cant help but notice and be alarmed….as for me, give me my sweet, brown sugar anyday….ever heard of the saying the blacker the berry, the sweeter the juice? Too true!
Hey, whatever happened to the saying, black is beautiful? And by black, I mean, AFRICAN! Call me racist, parochial, crude, whatever. I will go for the black chic anytime! You go look, most black guys who date and marry white babes sure have some complex.
Anyone can marry whoever they want.Suggesting that sistas should stage protests is making it appear that we are that desperate,we are not!!If these amrriages are working out,then hurray for those involved in them.
from my personal experience. a guy meets and like an african american girl, she says you don't drive an suv. she dumps you for a guy driving his dads bmw. same guy meets this "white chic". she helped him through school. guy becomes succesful; fat paycheck, nice car and a mortgage. i am going with the "white chic"
Inter-racial marriage is not a crime…but common..you have to admit, the number of successful black men marrying white women is alarming…
This is a good article. Africans need to stick together. These brothas either hate themselves or fancy a bunch of shallow trophy wives. I'm 100% against this interracial thing, because Africans are a people at war and need to maintain absolute national and familial unity and regenerate themselves. Can't have no gobal African nation without solid African families, and can't have no African family without an African woman AND an African man. This interracial thing is bourgeois western corruption.
It is not really black and white as you may think.You only need to get near to the key Universities and the professions in the UK to discover that the average descently brought up Black British girl appear to prefer old white men to Black men except perhaps where the Black guy is a ready made super star. If we are being honest to ourselves, we would find that Black women tend to set a higher standard for Black guys than they give would set for whites and Asians. Of course this is a highly debateble issue, but the bottomline is that it takes more from the woman's side for a relationship to work out. I have seen loads of Black British guys also going out for far below standard white girls and some who seem totally blind to Black beauty, but what I could find from my personal inquiries into the minds of these guys was frustration.Ones they have failed, they resort to blind condemnation of Black women. Generally, speaking our problem is that we lie to ourselves and refuse to admit or say our true behaviours. A frustarted Black girl who due to greed and stupidity plus inferiority complex lost promising Black guys would refuse to accept that she is to blame. She would readily claim that Black guys are not comming to her when her unrealistic expectations actually caused her fate. Also a Black guy who fails severally to secure a befitting Black woman would find some flimsy excuses about Black women.
I personally, have had terrible experiences of failures to get any Black girl and have settled down with a white woman at last, but I have never doubted in my mind that Black women are more pretty than white women. I rather wish that whatever prblems we have should be addressed rather than us trading blames. We all need to understand that this problem is linked to our general disease of inferiority. We must organise ourselve at the world stage perhaps and begin to denounce inferiority by both words and actions… Inferiority is the real problem with us as a group and until we begin to take controll of our destiny starting from having our own media and controlling our societies, we will continue to wallow in confusions. Everone is blaming another for our problems but we are all culpable. I do not condemn Black girls per se for my failures to get one (even though I had really bitter experiences), but I strive to understand the psychological issues… which are the most crucial point we must note. Both the males and the females among us have shares of the Blame and the only way is for enlightened Black leaders to appreciate the need to begin to deliberate on our general diseases of inferiority and failures as a people. This to my mind is the only way to give us pride and self confidence. Our women do not wear dead hair attachments for no other reason than lack of self confidence and the general disease of inferiority…
They despise their features and want to wipe them out. I don't care how you slice it black men suffer from extreme problems where self-esteem is concerned. These idiots are so brainwashed it's pathetic. Hopefully these women will brighten their lives as the children of the union now hate black men like you wouldn't believe. Go to mulatto.org and see what I mean.
When did inter racial marriage become a crime?
Race based marriages are narrow minded, limiting, biased, racially parochial and un-21st Century. It is a pathetic, sad and divisive. Lets shift our reasoning away from it and embrace the diversity of the world we live in. When love and all else seem to fit, race should not be considered. Best regards.
Dr. Fadal