Every Nigerian man I know would rather marry a Nigerian woman. But sadly, these women want to know the type of car one drives, whether one lives in a home …
Sabella Ogbobode Abidde
Sabella Ogbobode Abidde
Please, do not ask me about religion. I get the evil look every time I tell people I am an agnostic who teeters on atheism. My world resolves around ethics and the rule of law. That’s it. I have no use for religion: religious convictions are not part of my existence -- the laws of man are good enough for me. I have lived in several cities: Seattle, Miami, Norman, Minneapolis-Saint Paul, Saint Cloud, the District of Columbia, Houston, and Mankato. I am not sure where I am going to live next. And I have never really had a profession, only jobs: been a cook, a dishwasher, a civil servant, house cleaner, university instructor and researcher and so on and so forth. Every so often I get questions concerning the role and place of the African woman. Well, I don’t know; at least not with any certainty. What seems to work best is when both partners work as a team: cooperate, coordinate and collaborate their marital efforts. And they should be mindful of the insidious effect of modernization on the African family.
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There was a time when Africans, especially the men, kept to their promise of someday returning home to marry the women they left behind. Those days are mostly long gone…
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Culturally, Nigerian men are overbearing, controlling, and paternalistic. They relate to their fathers and mothers differently. They believe it is “a man’s world” and so they have the tendency to …
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Let men tell you what I have been telling anyone who would listen: if you are in a position to steal public money, please, by all means, do so! If …
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There are times when I think I need a personal assistant to help with responding to the emails I receive from readers on a daily basis. In all, one can …
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There are times when I think I need a personal assistant to help with responding to the emails I receive from readers on a daily basis. In all, one can …
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Every where I go, I hear Congolese, Togolese, Sierra Leonean, Liberians and South Africans and others speak ill of Nigerians. They hate the fact that Nigerians are “too aggressive,” “too …
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I like the Bible. Anybody can quote from the Bible. Whether you are a correct or fake pastor, a thief, a swindler, a dream peddler or whatever, it doesn’t matter. …
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Why in spite of the billions of dollars that have been allocated and collected by various state governors and their governments is there very little or no measurable progress in …
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Unless Mr. Uche Nworah knows something most of us don’t know, his current treatise on the fallout between Dr. Okey Ndibe and the Guardian Newspaper is too early a judgment …
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Some five thousand people in any given Nigerian city suffer from catarrh on any given day, yet, they don’t go to Germany for treatment…
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“I am a Nigerian, deep in my heart, I am a Nigerian; but how do I find my way back?”
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Just this morning I was informed that no pastor works alone. I was told that it is a cooperative effort between the men of God and other men of gods, …
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Some readers are pissed at the eclecticism of my essays. Others are perturbed at my analysis and conclusion. A few others think I have taken to the quicksand. For me, …
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Is Nigeria now ready to genuinely address the deep-seated injustice in the Niger Delta? Or is this all political game, political expediency, a thing of the moment on the part …
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(1) How to Offer Bribes (2) Robbing the right people (3) Cheating on Your Man (4) Cheating on Your Woman (5) On Ancient and Modern Sex (6) On Rigging Elections …