Most people don’t even spend the time to get to know their partners before marriage. For such people, it is enough that their partner is from a good and well-to-do …
Sabella Ogbobode Abidde
Sabella Ogbobode Abidde
Please, do not ask me about religion. I get the evil look every time I tell people I am an agnostic who teeters on atheism. My world resolves around ethics and the rule of law. That’s it. I have no use for religion: religious convictions are not part of my existence -- the laws of man are good enough for me. I have lived in several cities: Seattle, Miami, Norman, Minneapolis-Saint Paul, Saint Cloud, the District of Columbia, Houston, and Mankato. I am not sure where I am going to live next. And I have never really had a profession, only jobs: been a cook, a dishwasher, a civil servant, house cleaner, university instructor and researcher and so on and so forth. Every so often I get questions concerning the role and place of the African woman. Well, I don’t know; at least not with any certainty. What seems to work best is when both partners work as a team: cooperate, coordinate and collaborate their marital efforts. And they should be mindful of the insidious effect of modernization on the African family.
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An escapade and exploration to the whorehouse could get you any of a dozen other inconveniences. Whatever you do and however you do it, you want to stay away from …
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Between now and the inauguration day, Yar’Adua should meet with critics and opponents with genuine interest in the survival and progress of the country. There is the need to join forces for …
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In Africa, especially in Nigeria, human sacrifice is no longer as common as it used to be. But it still goes on though. You just need to know where to go …
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Some of my friends, relatives and neighbors have taken to spying on me, watching to see if I have been making midnight or early morning visits to the Shango, the …
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There is the tendency amongst some Africans to think that African culture is backward and primitive and all that…
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Everything that has been said and written about Obasanjo can be summed up in one simple sentence: he was incompetent and vengeful; he was a failure, a disappointment, a waste and …
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The 2007 elections were concluded last week. The exercise was deemed free and fair by both the EFCC and the International Monitoring Group, as well as by all Nigerians at …
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Do you know that those meyguards at Trafalgar & Locke House will not allow me to see Mr. Abati? On Monday they told me I didn’t have an appointment to …
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It’s been five weeks since I retuned to Nigeria, am still trying to get a handle on a lot of things. And although I am very happy to be back …
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Hateful words have a way of consuming those who utter them. Hateful words also have a way of damaging people’s sense of self and their self-esteem. We see both coming …
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There are twenty-three candidates vying to oust the ruling party in Nigeria and its presidential candidate. It makes no sense…
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The duty of every red-blooded African man is to shine as many congos as earthly possible; while it is the duty of any and all blue-blooded African woman to make …
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For several years now, the cost of love has been discouraging me from falling in love again. It is because of the cost of love that I have been running …
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Why do I have to wait this long for the “it” woman to come into my world. Why? You see, not just any woman would do. She must be a …
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Some people marry for love. For economic reasons. For social status. For stability. For children. For cultural purposes. Or simply because it is the logical thing to do right after …